I will certainly not be the only blogger to write about Brock Turner. I wasn't the first, nor will I be the last. And for a few days I've wondered if it is even worth the trouble, because every blog post I've read so far, has already made my points. Everything I've read is spot on with my own thoughts on the situation...so do I really need to write my own post? Or should I just continue sharing the ones I've read? Is it really worth writing?
Of course it's worth it. Because every post that is written about the blatant rape culture that took place with this case, is another opportunity for it to fall on a new set of eyes. Whether it's on Buzz Feed or Huff Post, or on CNN or a local news station, or if it's on my unknown blog on Blogspot - if one additional person sees it, then it was worth writing.
The back story is not needed; you've all seen it. Brock Turner, the model student athlete who was recently charged, convicted, and sort of punished for sexual assault. The jury, who found him guilty on three counts, without question. His dad, who basically agreed that he did it, but argued that there was no need to punish him and, you know, ruin his life as a swimmer. The judge, who apparently agreed that he shouldn't be punished for it. And the young woman, who's voice was not heard in court, and for whom there was no justice. Another young woman blamed for her own sexual assault. Another young woman asked why she was so drunk, why she was out so late, why she was wearing that sexy little top without her sweater.
What happened here is not surprising in the slightest. Brock Turner is white and wealthy, and he has a douchey rich white-guy name. He's a good student, and he goes to an accomplished university (insert sarcastic hand job motion here, because, who fucking cares). He gets good grades. He has a douchey white-guy hair-cut. He apparently knows how to swim. And he can do whatever he wants.
Because if you're white enough, rich enough, and athletic enough, you can do whatever you want in this country. And if someone should tell you that you cannot, your white enough, rich enough daddy will come along and say, oh yes you can, son, you can do anything you want.
And apparently, "whatever you want," does in fact include, ramming your dirty fingers into an unconscious woman's vagina and then dry humping her limp, noodly, passed-out body until someone comes by and makes you stop.
If you have not already read the victim's letter to her attacker, you absolutely need to, by the way. She shares terrifying details about what it is actually like to be fingered and dry-humped while unconscious, and she discusses in grave detail what it is like to need a rape kit in an emergency room. For those of you without a vagina, I can assure you there is nothing pleasant about anything inside you that you don't want, or are unprepared for.
This case has so many moving parts that I have struggled to even keep myself grounded as to which part I am so pissed about. Am I mad that he did it? Am I mad that he tried to argue that she consented? Am I mad about the comments under countless articles that blame the victim for being hammered? It's hard to keep tabs on my own anger, because really, I am just so mad about the entire thing, from start to finish! This woman went to a party with her sister, where she got drunk and may or may not have been dancing with a guy she didn't know.
Something every woman I know, has done, by the way.
She then finds herself in the emergency room getting her lady parts swabbed and photographed, after at some point she leaves the party, passes out, and winds up naked in the dark behind a dumpster being assaulted by a guy she doesn't know.
She is then, of course, blamed by these internet troll creeps for being drunk and slutty. Like every chick who gets hammered at a party deserves to wake up in the emergency room without the panties we had on just a few hours prior. And then, to make matters even worse, a fucking super-expensive, over-paid, creepy defense attorney sits in court, and under oath, blames her too! And then to top it all off, this fucking judge, who's sworn duty is to protect her, lets this little douche bag off with 6 months in county jail!! WHAT?!! How does this make any sense? How is this rational? How is this happening?!
Brock Turner is not a Stanford student.
Brock Turner is not a champion swimmer.
Brock Turner is not an all-American athlete or an exceptional academic.
Brock Turner is a sexual predator.
Brock Turner is a rapist (note, yes I do know he didn't actually rape her - however I do believe with all my being that had he not been stopped by two guys on a bike ride, he would have).
Brock Turner is a privileged, spoiled, catered little bitch, who has never been told no and who truly does believe he can take what he wants from anyone.
Brock Turner is what is wrong with America. He is why women don't go out alone. He is why we walk to our cars with our keys out, ready to stab one into someone's eye. Brock Turner is the reason we are worried about being drugged, why we worry about what we wear when we go out. He's the reason we take friends with us to the bathroom. He's the reason we have mace, the reason some of us have guns. Brock Turner is the reason women are defensive, the reason we are mean and unapproachable.
Brock Turner is the reason that women are scared of men.
Brock Turner's dad is the reason for Brock Turner. Dads who raise sons to take what they want, when they want, how they want. Dads who let their sons believe that if a woman passes out drunk, you can still move forward with banging her. Dads who don't teach their sons that no means no, and that the only permission you have to put your dick in someone is the word YES, from her conscious mouth.
Brock Turner and his father are the reason women in America will continue to be blamed for their own rapes, the reason we will continue to wonder what we should have done differently to have avoided being assaulted.
And Judge Aaron Persky, who's job it is to protect women in America from men like Brock Turner, is the reason Brock Turner will be the spoiled, entitled white kid who gets a slap on the wrist for rape.
Slap on the wrist. 6 months. For sexual assault. For sexual assault with the intent to rape.
Let that sink in while you're reviewing his swimming statistics and wondering if he'll be okay now that his dreams of swimming in the Olympics are dead. And then stop giving one single fuck about him, and shift your attention to the actual victim, who got no justice, and who will live the rest of her life a little bit more afraid of men than the rest of us.
Showing posts with label rape. Show all posts
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Tuesday, June 7, 2016
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Fuck You, Alex
Women are raped every day. Lots of us, in fact. One in four women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. One in four!! In America, 1,871 women are raped every day. That equates to more than one woman raped every minute. Rapes are committed in public, in the daylight, at school, in our dorm rooms. Rapes happen at night, outside of bars, on public transportation, at parties. Rapes happen in our own homes, in our own beds. And every day, a woman who is raped, is also blamed for what happened to her. Because we were out late or dressed "slutty," or because we shouldn't have been alone, or because we asked for it.
That is so fucking gross.
This week in Portland, another vagina-stealing, shit bag piece of garbage was tried (and thankfully convicted) for the rape of several local women. His name? Alex Francisco-Sebastion. You know why I know his name? Because his piece of shit family, and his toss-your-ass-back-into-the-gutter friends, had the fucking audacity to wear tee shirts reading "FREE ALEX" to his trial. What?!?
Fuck you. All of you. You are part of the reason your son/friend/nephew/uncle/brother turned out to be a scum bag. You are part of the reason he thinks he can walk up to whoever the hell he wants and exert his power over her. You are part of the problem. Because of you, because of the way you raised him, supported him, and loved-him-no-matter-what-because-he-can-do-no-wrong, these women were violated in the worst possible way. Pat yourselves on the back for that. You raised a real treat.
Are you fucking kidding me?!? Free Alex??!? Fuck!
I. Can't. Even!!!
I swear to God, if I committed some fucked up shit like this douche bag, no way ever would my mom be sitting in my trial with a I Heart Veronica tee shirt. She'd let me fucking ass rot in jail.
But I digress.
Of course, Alex is the real problem. You can only place a certain dollop of responsibility on his shit bag family before you have to remember that he is an adult, his slimy dick is attached to him and no one else, and he knows the difference between right and wrong. Alex, I hope you wear your fucking Free Alex tee shirt into prison. I hope you continue to brag and boast about your conquests once they lock the cell door on you. I hope you're proud of yourself and the fact that you were able to overpower a woman who wasn't as strong as you. I hope your family rallies in support of you, because they'll continue to be too blind to see how disgusting you are.
But I digress.
Of course, Alex is the real problem. You can only place a certain dollop of responsibility on his shit bag family before you have to remember that he is an adult, his slimy dick is attached to him and no one else, and he knows the difference between right and wrong. Alex, I hope you wear your fucking Free Alex tee shirt into prison. I hope you continue to brag and boast about your conquests once they lock the cell door on you. I hope you're proud of yourself and the fact that you were able to overpower a woman who wasn't as strong as you. I hope your family rallies in support of you, because they'll continue to be too blind to see how disgusting you are.
I can just literally not even wrap my brain around how this fucking bag of shit and his bag of shit family, even thought what they were doing was okay. Dude you fucking raped these women! You violated them. You took whatever the fuck you wanted from them. You're disgusting. You're the reason I will purchase a gun in 2015. You're the reason I will learn to shoot one, and the reason I wouldn't hesitate to use it on someone walking into my apartment in the middle of the night.
You. You fucking piece of dirty shit. You are the reason my best friend had to sit her terrified ten year old down and explain that she bought a gun because she's small, and because she can't protect herself. You're the reason little kids know what rape is and have to learn about it from their moms. You're the reason we don't go out alone at night, the reason we walk to our cars on high alert. You. You're the problem.
While we're hoping, I also hope a cell mate with a vengeance makes your cocky, arrogant, selfish ass, his little fucking bitch. I hope you spend the next years of your life scared and afraid, always watching over your shoulder. I hope you stay on high alert, out of fear of someone stronger than you. I hope you get the arrogant shoulder shrugs beat the fuck right out of you. I hope you spend these years in constant fear, on constant alert, at constant risk of someone bigger and stronger than you just taking whatever the fuck they want from you.
Spend these years feeling what it's like to be a woman in the world today, with dirty creeps like you following us in the shadows. Fuck you.
Spend these years feeling what it's like to be a woman in the world today, with dirty creeps like you following us in the shadows. Fuck you.
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