Let me preface this by admitting, I don't know shit about love. I don't know shit about relationships, boyfriends, girlfriends, or being mutually happy with another person. I know that I like someone, and then they tend to not like me back...or they like me and I don't like them. I also have a bad habit of being attracted to guys who are unavailable for a relationship. So long story short, I am not the best relationship role model out there. And that's fine.
Prompt: What do people consistently ask for your advice on?
I give amazing advice on how to deal with a break up, how to mend your sad heart, or how to move on from someone. I can talk for hours about the wonders of counseling and have great words of wisdom on coping after a partner abuses you. But as far as how to get past a fight and still be together, or how to maintain a healthy relationship, I am not the first person I'd go to.
And yet, my friends continue to call me for advice about their relationship problems. So apparently my advice is ok, or I assume someone would probably say something. I tend to just be super honest with my feelings - if I think you're being mistreated, I will tell you, I won't surgar coat anything. I don't want to see my friends in miserable relationships because they think that is what they deserve or because they are comfortable, so I am blunt. Nice, but blunt.
I have, on numerous occassions, had the following conversation:
Her: He's doing X, Y, Z. What should I do?
Me: Uhhh, dump him, he's an idiot. Obiously.
I guess maybe that's why my friends come to me for the advice in the first place. Because they know from me, they are getting the real deal. I don't gotta lie to kick it.