Tuesday, October 15, 2013

So You're Saying You Wanna Break Up?


Let me preface this by admitting, I don't know shit about love. I don't know shit about relationships, boyfriends, girlfriends, or being mutually happy with another person. I know that I like someone, and then they tend to not like me back...or they like me and I don't like them. I also have a bad habit of being attracted to guys who are unavailable for a relationship. So long story short, I am not the best relationship role model out there. And that's fine.

Prompt: What do people consistently ask for your advice on?

My friends come to me for relationship advice. All the time. And as they are sitting in front of me asking what to do about their relationship, I find myself thinking, well you must want to break up, or you'd be asking someone else anyone else but me right now. I am pretty much the last person I would expect my friends to ask for relationship advice. Not because I hate men or because I am an idiot, but because I have a horrible track record in relationships!

I give amazing advice on how to deal with a break up, how to mend your sad heart, or how to move on from someone. I can talk for hours about the wonders of counseling and have great words of wisdom on coping after a partner abuses you. But as far as how to get past a fight and still be together, or how to maintain a healthy relationship, I am not the first person I'd go to.

And yet, my friends continue to call me for advice about their relationship problems. So apparently my advice is ok, or I assume someone would probably say something. I tend to just be super honest with my feelings - if I think you're being mistreated, I will tell you, I won't surgar coat anything. I don't want to see my friends in miserable relationships because they think that is what they deserve or because they are comfortable, so I am blunt. Nice, but blunt.

I have, on numerous occassions, had the following conversation:

Her: He's doing X, Y, Z. What should I do?
Me: Uhhh, dump him, he's an idiot. Obiously.

I guess maybe that's why my friends come to me for the advice in the first place. Because they know from me, they are getting the real deal. I don't gotta lie to kick it.